There are lots of resources online dedicated to helping you come up with conversation ideas for dates, and there’s no doubt that your friends and family members are probably quite forthcoming when it comes to giving you advice regarding how to behave and what to say when it comes to meeting up with a potential partner for the first time. But often, what many people really need to know is what not to say on their upcoming date. After all, many a great date has been ruined by a single conversation or even a single remark, which has caused alarm bells to start ringing in the mind of the other person.
If in the past you’ve found yourself wondering what it was that you said to cause the other person to lose interest, or you’re simply worried about saying the wrong thing on an upcoming first date, you can be sure that there are a few things which you should always steer clear of. For one thing, it’s almost always best to avoid potentially controversial topics like politics, as the last thing you need is to end up arguing with your new potential partner when you’re only on your first date. Be sure to get to know each other better before you start discussing such topics, which should only usually be brought up and addressed after at least a few successful dates.
Focus on Your Date, Not on Yourself!
It’s also always sensible to avoid talking too much about your past relationships. Whilst talking a little bit about this topic is certainly acceptable, it is an extremely bad idea to dwell for too long on the issue. After all, you run the risk of giving your date two very negative impressions: first, that you’re still living in the past and thinking a lot about your ex-partner; and second, that you’re rather self-absorbed and prefer talking about yourself over finding out more about them.
Also, whilst it’s most definitely a good idea to ask plenty of questions and show interest in your date, do try to avoid coming across as too prying and intense. A few friendly questions about their interests, hobbies and experiences, asking in a jovial and light-hearted manner, will be more than enough to demonstrate that you’re genuinely interested in them without coming across as pushy, and will provide ample opportunities for further conversations. Don’t ask questions which are too personal or try to form a complete picture of your dates past, present and future over the course of a single date, or you can very easily find yourself coming across as over the top.
So on your upcoming first date, you don’t have to worry about whether or not the things you’re saying are helping you win your partner round, or whether they’re actually repelling him or her. If you keep the above advice in mind, trust your instincts and resolve to err on the side of caution if there’s something you’re not sure about saying, you can rest assured that you’ll be able to enjoy a successful and engaging date without saying anything which jeopardizes your chances of building a relationship.